A couple more text exchanges with Spa Guy. Note, it's not the normal kind of "how you've been doing? I've done X, Y, and Z in the last 4 years since we talked" kind of conversation you might have with a typical person. I'm just sitting back and letting him take the lead. My longtime friend from these boards, Survival Goddess, calls people like him "Shy Woodland Creatures" and I'm being careful not to spook him.
Honestly, although it would be nice to have a weekend "Spa Visit" with him sometime, I'm also perfectly okay with just being friends who chat about movies and music. I'll admit though, I was trying to figure out the other day how long I've known him. It's somewhere between 10 and 12 years. In that time I had a 5 year relationship with crazy ex-BF and 3 1/2 year relationship with CMM, so I only saw spa guy before and between those relationships. But part of me now feels like "Dang! He should have taken advantage of getting to see me more often in between relationships - what was he thinking?? Such a waste!" Lol.
Mostly I'm just happy to know he's okay. I don't need anything from him so whatever he offers is okay with me. I could make an exception to my "no dating for a year" for him, because I feel like he's a known quantity and not really a normal "date" (as in, not knew and not with relationship in mind). But I'm in no hurry either. And if I'm correct in my previous internet sleuthing, he's moved to the desert and I wouldn't want to drive there until the weather cools off.
My BFF says I'm a "secure attachment" type, and that's why I don't struggle with relationships like this. I know it wouldn't be for everybody. And really, since my divorce, I feel like everything is just gravy.
