I hear you, but there are many other signs that I see now that showed that much of my relationship with my ex was with a facade… He even pretended to be someone else with past relationships to get what he wanted. I heard the stories, but saw the side he showed me…the victim…instead of the red flags that they were.
What was real was the love I felt for him. Even if it was the version of H he showed me. But I am pretty sure I am right that what he felt for me was more what I did for him than who I am as a person. And he really showed who he actually is by his actions over the last several years. It is painful to say goodbye to all sides of the man I married…but I hope the progress I have made will continue to make it easier over time.
Yes, fear can hold us in places we need to move from. I am trying to get past the fear. Working in it, and these other things with my IC and on my own. Thank you for visiting my thread and for your words and advice. I appreciate it.
El
Me 52, H 56 T10 M7, 2nd MR for both 2 Step Sons (19 and 21) BD: Fall 2020 D finalized: July 2022 XH Married AP soon after D day.
