Ginger, I'm sorry you came home from your date crying. I wonder if it was partly your job uncertainty? Of course, most new people we meet aren't going to become lovers or good friends. Those outcomes are exceptions, not the norm.
You've cried over first dates before. I wonder why you expect---need?--these dates to be more. My life is about my kids, my adventures, and my charity. I have a BFF I call to talk about big developments in my life. My happy. My grounding. A first date is just meeting someone new--sometimes it's fun, good conversation, or sex. Often it's just hearing about someone else's journey while on a walk or taking a drink. Expecting more makes me wonder if you're over the last guy or can strengthen one of those other areas of your life--go on an adventure, deepen a friendship, or daily gratitude. So dates are just dates!
