Cheaters gonna cheat

[BL42]

Ginger1,

So today I got offered the job of assistant manager of care management at my other hospital.

Congratulations!!! That's wonderful!

The raise wasn’t nearly what I thought it would be, but it’s something .

Can you tell them "I'm very excited for the position, but was hoping the raise would be X...are you able to offer more?". Sometimes a simple innocent question can result in more $. Worst case they say "no". I was literally just having a conversation with my uncle on the beach this week about how the people who negotiate upfront early in their careers statistically end up with way more compensation in the same position down the line.

I know, I know, I got what I want and I should be happy, but I am scared to get out of my comfort zone. I’m afraid to make a wrong decision. Afraid to take the small piece of stability out of my life. I’m just praying I am making the right decision. I just doubt myself too much.

I recently had a career discussion with my director. He told me he's glad to hear I'm "happy" in my current position but not happy to hear I'm "comfortable". His point of view is learning and growth come from placing ourselves outside of our comfort zones. Who knows where it might lead. It's natural to have some uneasiness about an unknown but it can often lead to great opportunities.

Then I went home and cried and cried and cried until my eyes swelled shut. I am 42 years old and this has become torture.

Sorry :-/

I find someone that is awesome and he’s not ready.

It seemed to me that you didn't know him long enough to know whether he's awesome. Everyone has their fault which come out over time, and him still being married was a big red flag. You knew that going in, but wanted it not to be the case.

I am actually excited for my new role. It’s going to be great on my resume either way. I’m hoping it helps me secure employment when I move. Because I’m still moving.

Awesome! Great attitude.

Im in Atlantic City for a few days with my cousin and her family. Had a nice beach day today, good dinner, and won some money playing black jack.

Did you see any of the air show?!?