It probably seems like we're taking the narcissist charge lightly. Most people claim their ex was a narcissist. An old friend and I were joking about that on our trip this weekend. She looks for being past that phase and seeing ex's more clearly as a sign of dating readiness.
Maybe yours is one? But onto you. "Battles" take two and rarely turn out well for its participants. Own your role in these interactions and consider what you can do to change the dynamic.
Originally Posted by tt180
abuses me in email daily,
For example, instead of frustration, you could opt out of these. Direct legal e-mails to your attorney, co-parenting e-mails to a co-parenting app. Setup a filter so her e-mails go directly to a junk folder unseen for now. True story--I didn't read my ex's e-mails for the first 2yrs post-divorce.
Setting YOUR boundaries doesn't require any cooperation from her.
Originally Posted by tt180
I guess that's going dark minus the validation and empathy.
That's too bad. Those skills can minimize conflict and maximize your outcome.
Originally Posted by tt180
now is attempting to impede on my custody days demanding to see the children every day.
Deep breaths. She wants to see her kids as much as possible, as many parents do. I'm hopeful you took our advice and got a legally binding custody order before moving out? If so, her attorney needs to make a much more compelling case than your attorney to change the status quo.
