Day 25 of new life out of the house. Hard, but rewarding. The alone time is gold. Long hours to compensate for D1 custody time during work hours. Kids adjusting to two houses. The most quality time with my kids I've ever had.
I got the money back, nex reported my lawyer for "bullying" after I attempted presettlement due to no access to cash (she locked me out). Nex made an outrageous financial offer, abuses me in email daily, claims she's poor and dropped her lawyer, verbally screamed at me in front of the kids, smears me in front of S9, and now is attempting to impede on my custody days demanding to see the children every day.
It doesn't stop with these narcs. I'm preparing a strategy with my lawyer to get consent orders in order to have real boundaries and consequences for nex.
To top it off, I found out my first ex left her 9 year abusive marriage to a narc. We now talk weekly as friends after no contact for 13 years. Given we have a lot in common.
I've stopped all db techniques and have adopted grey rock. Absolute minimal contact as required, zero validation or emotion. I guess that's going dark minus the validation and empathy.
The house goes on the market in a fortnight, and I'm about to send a sensible counter offer. I'm preparing for the absolute worst of behaviour when she receives it.
