I am not sure how those in her life or her work reacted to her infidelity and divorce. I stayed out of it and certainly did not report her. And I’ve had no contact with her XH. I think they are pretty good at hiding the truth. Again, new city, new friends, and now they can hide things even more with MR.
Hi El, Geographical cures don't work.
Hiding from issues by changing relationship partners doesn't work.
We all know this is true.
Originally Posted by Elbereth
Like everything. You can try to hide it from others but you can’t hide from yourself. I hope at some point the R fails and they both have to come to terms with who they are and what they have done. Maybe that is mean and I shouldn’t think that way, but if I need to be honest, I do.
El
I understand why you feel this way. My hope for you is that over time your feelings change to indifference towards them and whatever happens to them, as that will mean you've crossed the Rubicon. I could give 2 $h!ts about them; my concern is you, your long-term happiness and your peace of mind.
I always feel like people who have overlap in romantic relationships tell us a lot about themselves, like they can't bear to be alone!! HUGE red flag. So many of the spouses of those who find themselves here fit into that category, running from person to person, shine new toy to shiny new toy. Nice work if you can get it, I guess? But guess what, that wears thin. Sooner or later we all must face ourselves and our demons. Better to do so before you're at end of life. But you know this.
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M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
