Traveler. You definitely seem like a glass-is-half-full kinda guy.
In a way, it's easy for me because I got a chance to R with both my XGF and XW. While you can't control the outcome--that involves another human--you definitely see LBS who learn from their mistakes and become a more attractive partner. It can help! Especially if one of the factors causing your spouse to leave was dissatisfaction with the relationship--assuming you weren't doing something that could fall into her "unforgivable zone" like cheating or abuse.
Good job reading Love Languages! Remember Sandi's rules come first. E.g., if Words of Affirmation are her thing, expressing gratitude she cooked a great meatloaf is fine, but beware of laying on excess flattery. Books on other skills (e.g., Listening) are easier to apply at this phase.
