At this time, the only reason I still want to stay in this marriage is my son.
That is how I used to think. Challenge/question your belief system. There is the "ideal" family that married couples should be striving for, but your sitch is far from the ideal. There are some "ideal" divorced family models that you can strive for that will still have two involved parents showing him love.
If D, then I'll maintain a cordial coparenting relationship. But there will not be any socializing or laughing or emotional/physical support or dinners or travel together.
Originally Posted by Ready2Change
Originally Posted by PeterB
How will I find out what she did there?
Sounds controlling.
Would have to disagree. If I don't know then how will I enforce my boundary that one more PA and I will move towards a D myself? LH19 & SteveLW suggested going by assumption. At least for me that is hard, but I am exploring it. In any case, imo a husband or wife should want to know if their spouses cheated, regardless of the state of the relationship. Not wanting to know or not trying to find out (if suspecting) would be a sign of lacking self-respect imho. She is well into travel btw. I couldn't care less about stopping her from doing whatever she wants to.
Originally Posted by Ready2Change
Women are going to test their men. Are you passing the tests? Have you done your research in the manosphere? PUA,red pill,blue pill,black pill, etc?
Can you clarify? What type of tests did you mean? I don't think either I or her passed any tests and that is why we are in this situation.
