Stepson (18) is about to leave for college and his room and bed will come available. Will be interesting to see if W suggests one of us move in there. I certainly don't plan to give up the MBR, but I'm not really getting indications W will push for it for either of us. Having said that...if she does, that means things are even more on the way down. I guess we'll see!
You are a decisive person so I suggest deciding that you will not give up the MBR, instead of planning not to give it up. Giving up the MBR (actually scarificing it so that my son could sleep better) didn't work out well for me. Now I'm stuck outside while in limbo and it sends the wrong signals.
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Remember there is no nicing her back. If she says "you should sleep in the empty bedroom" you validate "I understand that feel I should sleep somewhere else". But that night still go get in the MBR bed. If she protests you listen, validate, but do not give in.
If she chooses to sleep in the empty bedroom I wouldn't necessarily take it as an indication either way. Assigning meaning to the actions of a WW is fool's gold. I know you want to know the outcome (you admit that above). In my situation I would have guessed that we would end up D'd right up to the point where it became evident that she decided to stay. When these things turn around you will know, whether she chooses to sleep elsewhere or not in the short term.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
