Peter there is a saying here I strongly believe, cheaters cheat because that’s what they do. She’s not going there to bake apple tarts. She demonizes you because it’s easier to cheat on a monster than a good person.
Haha you are right. I sat down and thought clearly last night. I have been working a lot, but I made time last night to write the message above and think. She made up her mind to cheat again sometime last month. She is going to use her body to not just try to lock in OM but also to take revenge on me. I am certain of that now. I also figured out that some strange behavior I observed a few days ago was probably some drama related to OM - the result of her speaking to him on the phone the day before (to hide the call, she told me she was going out to speak with her confidant - a friend of hers who I had helped a lot when she was in adversity but now wants her to divorce me - good life lesson this).
Originally Posted by LH19
You have to decide what if another PA is a deal breaker. If you are in it for your son just ride it out and eventually she will either recommit or D you.
I had already set a boundary - another PA would be an immediate D. As mentioned previously, at some point I started thinking if it should be a D immediately or I take some time. I am not sure anymore - need to think. At the same time, I know that apart from my concerns about the effect on my son, I am fine if she initiates D.
