I mean I guess it's not too late since no one has moved out or filed yet(?)
The WAS moving out or filing often aren't the game-changes LBS initially imagine them to be. For example, my XGF and I reconciled months after she moved out, and my XW reminded me 1-2yrs ago that R was still possible.
Originally Posted by Doug54
_X__yes ___no ---> This answer would seem incongruent with what I marked for #1 above, but this is the vibe I really get. Yeah, I guess that's one way to spin it.
Nobody knows your exact odds, but they're higher when the WAS still has feelings about you and hasn't given up on trying to share them. Listen, validate, and find 180s that align with your own goals. That helps if you don't R, too! Also, remember that feelings are temporary. It's often said here one day they didn't want to marry you and eventually they did.
Doug, you sound a bit defeated about R just now. Have you read May's situation? She felt attacked for standing on the DivorceBusting website of all places, but she could sure articulate why it mattered to her. That steadfastness, and a partner who changed their mind, got her to R. What are you fighting for? Is that dream worthy enough to set a drop-dead date a year (or another timeframe) from joining DB as Steve often suggests--July 15, 2023? I love drop-dead dates because they alleviate your own daily swing of "Do I stand or not?" and there's an end and no indefinite limbo--one way or the other.
