It's good that you have made yourself "safe" enough for her to vent...
Possibly work on the "it's ok" and replace it with "Thank you for sharing your thoughts..."
The better mood....???
Part of the bitchc switch thing....
They vent / spew / rant....
And within a few hours, it's like nothing happened and more than likely don't/won't remember...
It tends to be 150% pure raw emotion that is coming out....years of pent up anger without resolution and feelings that haven't been worked through or processed.
Keep being a safe place, as long as it isn't venomous...
Have you read the 5 LL's yet ?
Don't remember if you have or not...
Appreciate the feedback, Mach. I've seen a correlation between how W seems to feel overall / how much she has on her plate, and how she acts towards me. Good mood / low stress = more outgoing & more interactions with Doug. She tends to curb the attitude with others even if she's not feeling it, i.e. she'll bite her tongue towards the older kids rather than let her mood dictate the interaction.
The part I bolded above is spot-on. I mean, there's no question. However, I feel like it's too little, too late for the MR. I don't plan to slam shut any doors with words or actions, but it really feels like W has moved on. But, I feel like I've gotten a lot better in dealing with things since I read DR and found this board, and I have IC today for the first time in three weeks (therapist was out of town). So there's that.
