I came home one night and my ex had taken the kiddos and went to visit family 6 hours away, so everything was pretty quiet for the first time in over 15 years...
I remember the feeling of " F this....if this is truly the plan for me"....
I remember going outside and screaming at God to give me every Fing thing he had, because I wanted to know my breaking point....
the next morning, I was reading through some threads and right in front of me was an email addy for JackThreeBeans, that if anyone needed to talk 'off boards' to please contact him....
That changed my life....
Funny how things work out sometimes. Randomly grabbing DR off the shelf of my local library and then finding this board has done wonders for me in my situation. Not sure what state of mind I'd be in right now otherwise...still trying to cling to the MR? Having frequent relationship talks? Reading about the situations of others that have fully played out and getting direct advice addressed to me has been invaluable.
Originally Posted by Mach1
By the time I was able to post, there wasn't much going on in my life except the work on me....
Sooooo....
My first 4400 or so posts have been about helping others here....
And the reason I never had any threads here (until recently)...
Hopefully that has worked a little....
In my 14 years here, I've had the pleasure of helping a dozen or so marriages reconcile, yet better than that, I've helped many people reconcile with themselves...
Yes, you've been a lifesaver. I also like some of the ambiguous notes because they could be read either way - if I was desperate for "good news" to build upon, it could be construed that way as food for thought, or conversely, a gentle 2x4 for a reality check.
Originally Posted by Mach1
I have found that with newcomers....Shorter bulleted responses go over better....
Typically there is an information overload, and their eyes gloss over with the longer more explanatory posts...
So short and to the point until the brain stops shakin around a bit....
Plus...you don't really need me to tell you how to live your everyday life.
Next thing you know, you will be posting here asking if you should buy Charmin or Angel Soft...F that...
I tend to post more philosophical stuff, and allow you to THINK, and come to your own conclusions about your life....
MLC theory...
WAS theory...
LBS theory....
I don't discriminate between the helpfulness of bullets or long-winded life stories. As far as I'm concerned, anyone taking time out of their day to shoot me a thought in my thread is doing me a favor. The philosophical bites are certainly deeper and actionable in an abstract way. Kudos.
Originally Posted by Mach1
I couldn't imagine two years either....at that time....
Looking at two years when you are in it, isn't a pleasant thought....
IF you look at it as a whole, you will fail....
Just never eat an elephant whole...you eat it bite by bite...
However that was MY thing...doesn't have to be yours...
Yet you DO have to make a choice......
And stop allowing her to tell you who the F you are.....
Yes, day by day. But what choice are you referring to? Like an existential, "Get busy living or get busy dying"? Or more like choosing to stand or leave? Or live my life vs being stagnant?
