Wolfman moving forward 3

[Wolfman]

I have a question. You said you're working two jobs and money is really tight. I understand that divorce is expensive and you have child support to pay. But are there other factors causing money to be so tight? I mean, just having another adult in the household isn't all that expensive on its own.

Also, is there anything you can do to up your income or reduce your expenses?

Between child support, my mortgage, utilities it [censored] me dry. My second job is commission only and I haven’t made any sales in months. That usually supplements me. That’s been hurting.

Mach1 I am trying to be heard, but it’s like my opinion does t matter. I didn’t mean to get into another relationship so fast. I have realized for a while it was too soon. But I can’t look back, I can only move forward. I am not looking for excuses, try to explain why I think I have a hard time with the validating. The part I mentioned about not having sisters. Trust me I know it seems like I am repeating the same old behaviors but I do catch myself a lot before I make those mistakes. I just let you all know when I make them, then the problems that occur.

Dawn you are absolutely right. Many times it has been expressed to me about me trying to be right. I don’t know what it is with me and that. I really don’t. And I am sorry to all of you for pointing it out to me, for me to only come on at another time and say I made the mistake again. I need to really did deep in myself and understand better what that is. I had so much work I needed to put into myself. I didn’t!!! I was spinning out of control and at the time (not an excuse just telling you what I was feeling and thinking) I was hoping another relationship would just make all the pain go away. Wrong way of thinking, again I have known that for a while now. Just trying to move forward. As far as my son, I speak to him all the time about being respectful. It has got better with him but there is still room to work on.

Wolf, I definitely get growing up not learning to actively listen and validate. I learned those after BD! As I mentioned, a great book on the subject is "The Lost Art of Listening". If you invest time into that now it'll not only help with your GF but also your kids--your son will soon become a teenager and at some point you will get another shot with your daughter.

Thank you for the suggestion, I will look into that book. I REALLY HOPE ONE DAY I CAN HAVE MY DAUGHTER IN MY LIFE AGAIN. I miss her sooooooo much.