but...is this common? I mean, is it normal for this behavior to be totally ok with the ex's friends/family?
Originally Posted by kml
It’s BS. People want to be “Switzerland friends” and not take sides. Plus you have no idea what kind of lies your ex is telling these people to justify his actions. They can tell the most egregious lies!
I've been surprised how friendly and accepting people are with my ExW. I assumed (or maybe wanted out of sense of revenge) folks to be offended and shocked at her actions of having affairs and breaking up a family with a 4yo and 1yo and kind of back away, but that's not been the case (at least in my observations at school, sports games...etc.). I think it's a combination of things: people might not know what she did, she definitely lied to her family and friends about me to make her actions less offensive, people might think badly of her behind the scenes but put on a nice/friendly face when encountered in public, but perhaps the number one factor is...society is simply a lot more accepting of these behaviors than it used to be.
Our challenge Newborn is to get over it and not worry about what society/others think of the situation or behave towards our Exs and focus on what we can control.
Thanks BL42. I appreciate you weighing in. It really is a weird situation. My IC says not everyone cares about their friends having the integrity that you or I may have. But agree - we'll move on, it's not about them, it's about us moving forward.
