First, be safe from an STD perspective because I hate to say this but you can't be certain what she's done.
Well when you get out in the dating world you can't be sure what the other person has done. Double bag it.
Originally Posted by BL42
Second, you better be absolutely sure you're 100% detached and have fully accepted the marriage might be over (I.e., "waved the white flag). Easier said than done when you're still having sex with the mother of your children.
In IHS you are never going to be 100% detached. Mine as well get a little.
Originally Posted by BL42
A lot of LBSs think they're detached and accepting, but then something that smacks them in the face and they realize they weren't.
This happens regardless of sex or no sex.
Originally Posted by BL42
The sex can hurt your detachment and can be used as a way for her to manipulate you to keep you as a backup and to soften you up to get you to do what she wants in the separation/divorce.
Only if you let it. Remember a great 180 is learning to control your emotions.
Originally Posted by BL42
If you can keep having sex and simply enjoy the physical act and know you're 100% detached and accepting, great...you do you. But easier said than done.
Doug you will know better than anyone what you can handle.
