I am not sure what you mean here? If you mean did we have a separation agreement the answer is no. She wanted to nest and legally separate but I opted for divorce. I wanted a clean break.
What I meant was, did you embody the true spirit of IHS in that you and EXW were on different floors and didn't see each other (or whatever). From what I've heard, it's possible to basically fudge this as long as both parties sign on to it at the end. I honestly don't know what the norm is.
Originally Posted by LH19
When she told her parents I knew there was no going back. Her dad really laid into her and she almost wavered. I am glad she didn't because I would be in a dead end miserable marriage right now.
So, you mentioned in a previous reply that it "wasn't that bad" once you accepted that things were over. How much did you and W do together / interact in the house / etc after that point? Did you guys do anything at all that normal couples do out - tennis, go to a restaurant just the two of you, etc.? Or was that part of of your marriage dead and buried?
Originally Posted by LH19
Pure speculation here Doug. I think she may regret not trying harder. Our marriage was definitely broken but we had a lot in common and had fun together. It definitely needed a major overhaul. If she came back today and wanted another chance I would say no. I have zero faith she is capable of remorse and doing the work necessary to start over. Would I 100% write her off forever? Nah. We had some really good years together and were able to produce 2 AMAZING kids that will keep us bonded forever.
I have read a lot of your posts throughout the board, and it really feels like in your heart of hearts, you want the fairy tale ending with W. You should've swiped right on Bumble Either way, I am rooting for you, bud.
Either way, I am rooting for you, bud.
