Wolfman moving forward 3

[Dawn70]

I agree with Mach in that YOU are responsible for you and the onus is on you to teach your son how to treat women. I’ve said to you many times before that I interpret your posts here as someone who is always trying to be right. Go back and look how many times someone points something out to you only for you to respond with something like “yes, but…..(insert random excuse here)”. Now, I’m not saying you are always wrong. Heck, I’m not even saying you aren’t always right. What I am saying is you seem dead set on it being your way or the highway but you want to act like that isn’t the case. You say you’re bad at validating and you aren’t used to feelings because there were none in your house when you were a child but, as Mach pointed out, that seems to be a bit of an excuse to not really deal with stuff. It’s also a convenient excuse to deflect advice you are given. So validating isn’t your natural setting. I get that. It isn’t a lot of people’s natural setting. It’s a skill you have to work on.

As far as your son saying thank you, he’s 12 and there’s no reason he can’t be learning to do his own laundry so if I was in your gf’s position, yeah, I would want him to show some appreciation that I’m washing his underwear. I wouldn’t need it every single time but a random thank you here and there would be good. Food is a bit different but still a random thank you here and there isn’t a bad thing. To me that seems like such a small and random thing to be upset about. If she’s demanding that he bow down and kiss her feet every single time she does anything, that’s unreasonable, but to expect the occasional thank you is not outline. Now, I’m full disclosure, I do think, at least according to your own telling of the story, your gf seems pretty insecure and made a bigger deal out of the no thank you for mac and cheese. But to her it was a big deal so there is that.

I don’t know, Wolf. To me it is kind of like throwing the baby out with the bath water but it just seems like there are a lot of issues that you should’ve worked through personally apart from each other before getting in a relationship. And I’m NOT just talking about you.