I hear my ex’s voice a lot in this “arguments” and then I get defensive. A lot of times my response is the same. Hence why I am here and trying to improve. I don’t know what it is about me, but I feel like I need to explain my side. I have a real problem, and that is being wrong. Not good, definitely need to work on it.
Are you trying to be heard ?
Or trying to have your opinion the only one that matters ?
Why is it so important for you to be right ?
And TBH....
IF you don't know what it is, and you are still hearing your Ex's voice when your new partner speaks, then you probably shouldn't have involved another person so soon after your relationship ended...
You've basically been proving Einstein's theory of insanity correct...
Doing the same things over and over while expecting a different result..
So far, I feel as if you've been clipping the top off of the Dandelion instead of killing the root. And it just keeps growing again and again....
Soooo...
Not that you ARE like that (defensive)...
WHY are you like that ????
It seems that you come here for your fix of the right things to say or do, then fall back into old behaviors and words....
Because you are clipping the top....
Not the root....
Originally Posted by Wolfman
The whole feelings thing, working on understanding that. I didn’t have any sisters growing up and my mom was tough. She worked hard and did what she had to do. So this whole feelings thing, I am not used to. If you didn’t have a broken bone or dying in the house, you were fine and move on. I know that carried over with me. That’s why I say I am not used to feelings. No one had any in my house. Lol
While it seems that to be the case...
I think that you have found the exact excuse that you need, to not do better....
And IF you know that ...
Then why aren't you addressing that ?
You are the only one responsible for your behaviors, words, and actions....
And bottom line here....
YOU are responsible for teaching YOUR son how to treat a Woman....
