I have just found out that I am now officially divorced.
When we separated in 2018 I was heart broken and confused. I wanted us back together. However, bit by bit the truth came out about things that had been happening behind my back for many years including financial abuse.
Throughout separation, WW continued to be thoroughly nasty towards me. The lies, gaslighting and projection is extreme. I have stayed ultra cool so not been provoked. I now know that she will sink to extreme depths to try to destroy me.
After more than 4 years of separation I found out that ex lawyers still hadn't filled for the divorce to be made final. I therefore contacted her lawyers to make it final. Now it is final.
If someone had told me 4 years ago that I would actually be the one perusing for the divorce to be finalised then I wouldn't have believed it.
I feel relief and yet sadness because when we married I had wanted it to last forever and we have kids. I am shocked at the extreme behaviour of WW and don't want to be with that sort of person. We still have to be in contact regarding the kids so unfortunately WW is trying to use them as a way to hurt me. I have been advised by the police and counselling that she will never stop doing so.
