Wolfman moving forward 3

[Wolfman]

GF: I really feel your son never says thank you when I cook him.
W: So you are saying you feel taken for granted?
GF: Yes
W: Ok I will have a talk with him


W: Son GF feels unappreciated when you don't thank her for things she does for you.
Son: ok dad I will next time

LH thank you for this. I want to be honest, that does not feel normal or natural for me. Hence why she probably feels anxious. I will definitely work on that. I need to really do a better job with that.

2. This one is concerning. She is saying things that my ex has said I have done. That is I am causing her anxiety. My ex said the same thing. I don’t know what to do. I feel unless I am skipping around and happy all the time I cause them anxiety. The minute I am not happy or joking around I get called grumpy. I don’t get it, am I not allowed to have feelings. WhAt, am I just supposed to listen to everything they say and do what they say, can’t have an opinion on anything. So, I feel like this is something I am supposed to fix but I think they are asking the impossible.
I am supposed to be happy all the time, do what they say, and always worry about their feelings.
I am beyond confused. I feel when 2 women are telling me the same thing, there is some validity to it, but I also feel what they want me to do is the impossible.

Is she right ??

How many times in the middle of these talks, do you hear your Ex's voice and fall back into old triggers ???

How often are your responses the same as they were with your Ex ???

I hear my ex’s voice a lot in this “arguments” and then I get defensive. A lot of times my response is the same. Hence why I am here and trying to improve. I don’t know what it is about me, but I feel like I need to explain my side. I have a real problem, and that is being wrong. Not good, definitely need to work on it.

Traveler. I need to work on the leading. I am definitely working on that. As far as going on dates, we have only done 2. I am going to plan another one.
The whole feelings thing, working on understanding that. I didn’t have any sisters growing up and my mom was tough. She worked hard and did what she had to do. So this whole feelings thing, I am not used to. If you didn’t have a broken bone or dying in the house, you were fine and move on. I know that carried over with me. That’s why I say I am not used to feelings. No one had any in my house. Lol