Boundaries & My At Home MLC’er

[BL42]

Theia,

Sorry you're going through that. 3-7 years must be very difficult. My situation was much different in that now-ExW BD'd me, moved out & filed within 5 months.

While this post is about my H I am doing things I enjoy. I recently cut my hair 6” and went from my natural blonde & galaxy to a lovely pastel pink. The shorter length made it so my natural curls came back to life. I see friends. I am working on our home, recently having the entire friend floor done in engineered oak. I’ve lost weight. I’m riding my bike. I’m trying new recipes. I’m taking a course on healing from betrayal. Early in July I went to the seaside by myself for 4 days. I’m working on my PIES. I’m reading a lot here and supporting others on the two FB MLC groups I’m in.

To me this is the best paragraph from your posts: new hairstyle, friend time, home improvements, weight loss, bike riding, recipes, self-improvement class, personal vacation...all great stuff. Keep focusing on improving yourself and making your life enjoyable.

Your H is on his own journey. I doubt anything you do to change that will matter. He's chasing a fantasy that's half a world away and doesn't even want him. Do your best to detach and not let his day to day behaviors impact you.

Hang in there...