That's logic worthy of Aristotle right there. So...you did in-home separation. I was going to ask because I believe you said W still lived with you for a year after filing, which doesn't make sense any other way. I'm guessing you didn't really "maintain separation" but still acknowledged it in writing? I guess that's how these things may play out.
I am not sure what you mean here? If you mean did we have a separation agreement the answer is no. She wanted to nest and legally separate but I opted for divorce. I wanted a clean break.
Originally Posted by Doug54
How did you know when it was time to wave the white flag?
When she told her parents I knew there was no going back. Her dad really laid into her and she almost wavered. I am glad she didn't because I would be in a dead end miserable marriage right now.
Originally Posted by Doug54
Did you shed any tears at that point?
Oh yeah! The first trip they took without me I was fine for the first 4-5 days. Then on the sixth day out of nowhere I went to the floor and cried uncontrollably for a half hour. I literally couldn't move.
Originally Posted by Doug54
I feel like I'm desensitized since this has been going on for months, but it would still be a gut punch if W up and left tomorrow.
No way around it buddy you are going to have to go through the stages of grief. Google it if you are not familiar with it.
Originally Posted by Doug54
I know you've said that your EXW has settled for a bit of a schlub (are they now married?)
Nah. I had to swipe left on her on Bumble a couple of months ago. It's either done or she is back to monkey branching. About a month ago I had to go to a party and my son was nervous about seeing him there.
Originally Posted by Doug54
and that she misses the kids when they're not with her.
I think she does. I don't give them up often on my time but when I do she takes them every time.
Originally Posted by Doug54
Do you think she regrets splitting up?
Pure speculation here Doug. I think she may regret not trying harder. Our marriage was definitely broken but we had a lot in common and had fun together. It definitely needed a major overhaul. If she came back today and wanted another chance I would say no. I have zero faith she is capable of remorse and doing the work necessary to start over. Would I 100% write her off forever? Nah. We had some really good years together and were able to produce 2 AMAZING kids that will keep us bonded forever.
