Steve is very wise. It would do you good to listen to him. He has helped me very much over the years.
I have been IHS for almost 4 years. This can give you some idea of how long a time-line we are talk9ng about. Where S and I are now is much better than before but it is nowhere near what would be considered an R. We are cordial and friendly. That's the extent of it.
I'm open to any possibility at this point. How I got here is by distancing myself without being rude or unkind or unfriendly. Not asking questions. Talking less. Meditating. Realizing I can only control my own actions. Going to IC. Reading etc. It's a tricky balance but it is possible, and these are all things you could try as well.
The question is this: what do you want to do?
Best
IW
IW.....I have asked that same question a couple times myself....
To summerize....
My wife did this so I did this...
My wife did this so I did that....
It's early still though....
Hopefully he can see how much focus is on her instead of himself....
I also did an in-home thing, for two and a half years....
