As far as the rest of the exchange that resulted, obviously my stance is that they should never have happened. She is using MC to try to get you to cave (and this is why caving is a bad idea because if you cave on MC then just maybe you'll cave on nesting or some other thing). So it is hard to for me to give props.
What I will say is that she is trying to manipulate you. "Go to MC!" So she can try to get you to cave on her other plans. "I am conflicted." If you continue to play ball with what I want it might save the marriage. (HINT: It won't.) "It looks like we have to stay put for now." If I act like I am resigned to the way things are then maybe Doug will give me more of what I want.
Believe NOTHING she says. That literally means NOTHING.
What Steve said. She is trying to manipulate you. Also her saying she is conflicted. She is not. She know exactly what she wants and that is you out of the picture. Period. Again what Steve said, believe NOTHING she says, NOTHING! Spouses in these situation will lie, steal, manipulate like there is no tomorrow. Again I caution you to remain vigilant to not find yourself on the wrong end of a restraining order.
