Thanks for the clarification, but I didn't misconstrue anything.
No a poster who I know who is more pro WW than me texted me saying I wasn't doing you any favors by telling you that if you read LLs it wouldn't have made a difference. I know it was probably making you feel guilty so I was trying to ease the guilt. As you state clearly below you know you have changes to make moving forward.
Originally Posted by Doug54
I definitely had my role in things coming unglued.
Yep. Most of us here who aren't narcissistic know what we contributed to the downfall.
Originally Posted by Doug54
I never crossed a line with W or did anything inappropriate outside the marriage, but I was emotionally distant and not hands-on enough, and it came back to bite me.
Yep. You were doing the best you could with the knowledge you had at the time.
Originally Posted by Doug54
That bolded line above was probably a perfect encapsulation of me, at least for a time.
Yep. Most men here would probably agree.
Originally Posted by Doug54
It doesn't lessen the sting of where we are today, but I do think there's a strong chance I could have knocked it out of the park as a husband in every way and still be in this situation.
100% She's a butterfly chaser looking for the tingles.
Originally Posted by Doug54
You know, life's passing her by and I'm the main obstacle in the road.
Yep. She needs a major change because no way is she spending the rest of her life in a tingless marriage.
Originally Posted by Doug54
But again, the point remains that I could have been better - something I want to improve upon today, tomorrow, and in whatever future relationships life holds for me.
You have the right attitude Doug. You are going to be better than fine!
