Wolfman moving forward 3

[Wolfman]

Well wolf if I had to make a educated guess it is because you are so argumentative that they feel like they are walking on eggshells all the time. Every feeling they express to you becomes an argument because of your defensiveness.

Probably should have worked on this more before entering another relationship.

Thank you. How do I work on this. Let’s say if I think someone is wrong, how do I handle that then? Just always validate? I am so confused. I hate that I make these mistakes. I don’t want my loved ones to feel like that.

Well wolf if I had to make a educated guess it is because you are so argumentative that they feel like they are walking on eggshells all the time. Every feeling they express to you becomes an argument because of your defensiveness.

Probably should have worked on this more before entering another relationship.

I hate to say this, but LH is right. If anyone ever expressed a feeling and they know they are going to get a defensive response, they are going to have anxiety and walk on eggshells all the time . And their perception is skewed, but I imagine they don’t want to feel madly in love all the time, but rather not feel like everything they say or do or feel is wrong

Thank you Ginger. How do I communicate better than? Just listen and validate all the time? How do I respond how I feel then? Or if I really don’t agree with a position? Please help me and give me some examples. Ugh I am a dope at communication.