I just feel she is very immature and makes small little things into big problems. Yesterday I bbq chicken and burgers.
Well I am guessing that is how it feels when you are in your 40s and your GF is in her 20s.
Originally Posted by Wolfman
GF went to a baby shower the other day and brought home some food. One of the things being Mac and cheese. My son loves that. So yesterday we were eating dinner all 4 of us. My s ate a little Mac and cheese and a burger. That was it. My son finished gave me a hug and said thanks. And went to the living room. GF replied that was Interesting. I said what was? Her reply, “he said thank you to you and not me.” I said well it because I bbq and he ate the burger. She said, well he had Mac and cheese and I brought that home for him. I said I know that but he didn’t know that. She says, he never says thank you to me. She said well I seasoned the chicken. I said I know but he didn’t eat the chicken. She goes this is what I mean I am not appreciated. I said he says thank you a lot. Her reply, he barely says it and doesn’t appreciate the things I do for him. My next response probably not the best, but I am getting fed up. She just looks for reasons to attack my son. I said are you just looking for an argument. She stormed off and left me with the baby. She went in the bedroom and closed the door.
Have you ever tried validation instead of discounting her feelings?
Originally Posted by Wolfman
My question to everyone is this. My s is 12. She expects him to say thank you for every little thing she does. Granted I speak to him because he should. Like when she does his laundry, she wants him to come to her and say thank you. Every night for dinner, when she cooks. To me, what 12 boy is going to do that.
I would say no for the laundry but yes for the cooking. That wouldn't hurt him.
Originally Posted by Wolfman
Her expectations are in my opinion ridiculous. If once and a while he doesn’t say it does that mean we need to get into an argument? Are my expectations too low or are here too high? I think about my friends kids, they don’t say thank you for every little thing?
Again if you haven't learned that everyone is entitled to their feelings you have learned nothing here Wolfman.
Originally Posted by Wolfman
The other thing is, I am tired of how she wants me to respond. She has a complaint which is often I am just supposed to say ok. Even if I think she is wrong or it is a mistake. The double standard too.
Or uuummm validation.
Originally Posted by Wolfman
Like I am supposed to me a submissive man and just bow down to these women. Which is not me and never will be.
I'd say right now she is wearing the pants my friend. So how can you change that?
