It has been brought to my attention that I am doing you a disservice by implying that you did nothing wrong and you are a victim. That is not my intention. I was trying to ease your guilt of not reading the "Love Languages" book. I am sure you know everyone can improve on their relationship skills/self improvement and that is why I have read 40 books and continue to seek more knowledge as read in my threads in Surviving. Typically with men we lack empathy and validation skills which lead to disconnection with our partners. When the disconnection happens then both partners tend to ignore the other persons needs. Resentment starts to build until eventually someone is the first to pull the rip cord leading to the LBS landing here.
Your best path to restoring you marriage is to become the best version of yourself.
