It's common for the WAS/WS to give a lot of grief to the LBS, even in cases where the LBS was a pretty decent or even good spouse. They're unhappy, and they often put the blame of their unhappiness onto someone else rather than looking inward. So I wouldn't be surprised if you're IC is right (at least partially). It could also be projecting the hurt/anger/blame she has for her own actions & decisions onto you. She feels bad at first about what she's doing but can't blame herself forever and live with that so she has to put that on someone else (often times the spouse).
That's spot-on. I'm not saying it makes things easier to deal with, but there are common traits to WAS/WS/MLCers.
Originally Posted by Doug54
To answer the second question, today, at this moment - no, I don't think I could do two years of this. Even if I were to assume we're maybe 6 months in, and that two years is down to 1.5...I just don't know. If I had a crystal ball and *knew* W would come out of it- could I deal with a year and half of suckitude? Probably. But as a total maybe that she'd exit the MLC? I just don't know.
I think I told you once you have to steel your resolve if you're going to stick it out. Every timeline is different, but it's most likely to take much longer than you first imagine/hope/realize. If you're already saying you can't stick it out a year or two...[/quote] That's a fair point. And like you, I don't want to be the one pulling the plug. But if things deteriorate to the point where I feel treated like a second-class citizen in my own house... who knows.
