Still not divorced

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Gigi123,

But your right the less i respond the better, he should get the point.

Yep. You don't even need to say anything to him about it - just take action. No responses to anything that isn't related to kids or finances, and even then short and sweet.

We are moving in the next 2 months to a much smaller house that will be mine and the boys only, i cant imagine he will allow such behaviour, but yesterday i couldnt wait for him to leave.

You can't control his behavior. You may want to communicate your boundaries/expectations for the new place and then be prepared to enforce them when he challenges/crosses them.

In terms of abusive messages, its mainly name calling, “you are nuts” “ are you an actual idiot” words along these lines, these are the most recent ones that spring to mind. In the context of cery long txt messages, often telling me what to do.

Completely ignore those type of comments. My guess is if you do they'll fade over time. Practice not responding to anything that isn't a relevant question (children or finances). Sometimes I'll pull out the relevant questions and respond below those in bold (similar to using quotes on this board). Even then practice using as few words as possible to convey the point. "No", "Yes", "OK" are valid responses.