If we're talking about pie-in-the-sky hopes, I would want my old wife back and to live the life I thought we were destined for, raising our children together.
Originally Posted by Mach1
What do YOU want to work toward ??
Since I can't control W or her actions, I want to work toward self-betterment, being a good father, being happy, eliminating any co-dependent traits, world peace, ending hunger...
Originally Posted by Mach1
I think that you may be seeing this as she is doing this TO you....
Something deliberate, just to hurt you....
Is she ?
OR could it possible that she is doing this for herself...
To find out who she really is inside...
You know...of course the easy answer is that it's her journey. But I'm definitely getting the brunt of it- the snippy responses, moods, eye rolls. One minute she might be acting p!ssy towards me, the next having a full-hearted chuckle with her daughter (my stepdaughter). My IC said I'm probably being "targeted" as a source of what's wrong in her life, though I don't know how much specific familiarity he has with MLC.
Originally Posted by Mach1
Good friend of mine always said...
Today is not the day that I quit, maybe tomorrow, but lets see what tomorrow brings...
A good line to bear in mind. Keep kicking the can down the road as long as possible.
Originally Posted by Mach1
So, a question.....
You still love her ???
Are you willing to give a couple years of your life to see if there is the possibility of that 50 year anniversary ?
I think that the first question is the most important though....
Yes, I do still love her. Eighteen years together and three children (plus the two stepchildren I raised as my own with W) creates a history that can't just be turned off. Some erosion has definitely occurred, but what's been broken can still be put back together. Will it? I really don't know. If I had to guess today, I would put about an 80 percent chance of divorce on my situation. W is really yearning to see if the grass is greener on the other side.
To answer the second question, today, at this moment - no, I don't think I could do two years of this. Even if I were to assume we're maybe 6 months in, and that two years is down to 1.5...I just don't know. If I had a crystal ball and *knew* W would come out of it- could I deal with a year and half of suckitude? Probably. But as a total maybe that she'd exit the MLC? I just don't know.
