How do you deal with H who doesnt stop txting, i find a quick convo on exchange of kids much more productive than constant txts when we are already aggravated about something.
I deal almost exclusively in email. I find that to be less back-and-forth than texts messages, a balance between having to have conversations (which aren't then in writing to reference) and constant text messages. If you don't want to text, simply don't respond. He'll get the idea real quick. You can almost train him to learn not to text you.
Originally Posted by Gigi123
He wants us to work together, wants to be involved in everything, but he wants to know stuff in real time.
Working together on parenting and being involved is fine, but real time is impossible. That's divorce. Just make sure you're sharing critical items in a timely manner, and train him to learn he can't be involved in the the daily/hourly stuff anymore.
Originally Posted by Gigi123
Today he came round to collect suitcases for the trip with the boys and walked into the garden and started playing with the boys, he sprayed me with the water gun and then again in the face, it was very uncomfortable overall
Sounds like you need to set some boundaries. If you don't want him coming around and hanging out - and that's completely fair - clearly state that and then be willing to enforce it in the future.
Originally Posted by Gigi123
however recently i have been finding his messages bordering on abusive and he has been verbally abusive.
What was abusive? Can you give an example?
Originally Posted by Gigi123
im working for 3 days and then off to Italy for 3 nights so im rather excited and looking forward to not receiving txt messages.
Enjoy your trip to Italy! Should be fantastic GAL.
Me:39 Ex-W:37 M:7 T: 9 S:6 D:3 BD/IHS/Confirm EA/PA: Feb '20 OM1 affair ends: May '20 W/OM2 & moves out: June-July '20 W files for D: Jul20 OM2 confirmed: 9/2020 Divorced: May '21
