How do you deal with H who doesnt stop txting, i find a quick convo on exchange of kids much more productive than constant txts when we are already aggravated about something. H keep arguing over txt, i try to engage as little as possible, but sometimes it is relevant to the kids and I obviously need to respond somehow. But if i do engage its never ending, boys said this, boys said that. He wants us to work together, wants to be involved in everything, but he wants to know stuff in real time. I have arranged a meeting with the school for end of summer to discuss s7, so mentioned it to him and suggested that he joins the meeting obviously, he was so unhappy that it didnt let hin know straight away! I mean the meeting is 29 days away and frankly i have a busy life and it really isnt my first thought to let H know.
Today he came round to collect suitcases for the trip with the boys and walked into the garden and started playing with the boys, he sprayed me with the water gun and then again in the face, it was very uncomfortable overall, however the boys were very excited to play, and i was so tired from the long drive to and from the airport i couldnt deal with any more conflict. My friend was here also and she said how uncomfortable and fake it was. He literally took up 40 minutes or so of my time, he also clearly had a drink. I havent quiet experienced anything like this before, however recently i have been finding his messages bordering on abusive and he has been verbally abusive.
I dont really know what advice i need here, i just didnt expect to be here nearly 2.5 years later.
Boys are off to see H mum for a week and im working for 3 days and then off to Italy for 3 nights so im rather excited and looking forward to not receiving txt messages.
