I only have time for a quick reply--but WONDERFUL JOB DB'ing when your W wanted an R talk. You set and held firm to boundaries controlling you. You validated her feelings. This is TheWay for either R or D'ing on the best terms. Small misstep (guilting/manipulation). I agree with BL42's reply.
Thanks for the words of affirmation, Traveler. I will try for a perfect response next time, minus the guilt trip. Hopefully with more practice under my belt I'll be able to nail it...better yet, no attempted R talks to begin with!
