My friend came over who knows ex and I - she knew ex before I did, since she was part of the group that he hung out with instead of me. But we all got together and get along fabulously and her career is in a similar stress level as mine so we're close.
She said her husband hung out with ex and came back and was like "He has his side too." from her perspective, literally nothing could justify what he did to me (and the baby). I think it's really kind of her to say that, and I haven't tried to go around getting people to "take sides", but...is this common? I mean, is it normal for this behavior to be totally ok with the ex's friends/family?
It just makes me wonder how toxic I was I guess, or insufferable to put up with. I think this mindset is holding me back from moving on.
