Yesterday the ex messaged me asking if he could introduce the baby to his close friends. These friends are the ones he said he would rather spend time with (three women / coworkers in their twenties) since they were able to provide emotional fulfillment I couldn't. Honestly I think pretty highly of the three of them, The ex was the problem. On Valentine's Day one year he posted on Instagram the four of them lying on a blanket smiling saying how Valentine's Day is also about platonic love, of course mentioning nothing about me. So it's a little hard to see them for that reason to be honest, it's always like what did they have or provide that I didn't? Etc.
Anyway, I told him yesterday that he could introduce them and that I was pretty free all day other than some phone dates. He called at 11:00 saying they were going to a nearby park so should be by not super soon but soonish. I didn't get a text until 5:00 p.m. saying that they probably wouldn't make it as a couple additional friends were going to meet up. He asked if they could meet him Sunday instead, appreciating how flexible I have been and of course wanting to respect my schedule etc.
My friend texted me a picture of the X's Instagram. She knows I unfollowed him and don't really want to be updated with his stupidity but she was so grossed out she wanted to text me. He posted a picture of himself saying how usually he wears a ponytail but his friends convinced him to wear a man bun so here it is for everyone to see!
So apparently he had time and effort to post a photo of himself but not to keep me and his son updated! Great. Also - SERIOUSLY -who cares?!
I was pretty pissed but texted back that they could meet me and the baby at the coffee shop near my place at 9:00 a.m. I set this boundary because I do not under any circumstances want to be waiting all day to see them once again. He thanked me for my flexibility.
Well it kind of worked out that the baby actually was just not having it today (maybe he picked up on my energy, who knows) and was having trouble napping and was crying that "I needed to sleep but I can't" type of cry So I called the ex while this was happening to tell him that probably it wasn't a good day to come by and I wanted to call him before he left his house, the ex was understanding and thanked me for letting him know.
Being inconsiderate of my time has been an ongoing issue with our prior relationship even before troubles began. I'm grateful for moments like these because it again reminds me this is not all my fault. It was also weird to me that he talked about bringing his friends to meet the baby like he was some kind of puppy. "Oh today doesn't work because we're going out to the bar hey can we come by tomorrow Thanks for being flexible!!" It seems like he really wants to be father of the year when people are watching or when he talks to his friends that are fathers. So gross.
