Do you happen to have a thread detailing how things transpired for you?
My thread was at the tail end of my sitch right before my EW filed. Once she filed I pretty much stopped on my own thread.
Originally Posted by Doug54
I notice in your signature you’ve been married 16 years. Is that to your second W? Did your 2.5 years of limbo occur in the 1990’s?
No just not updated. My sitch started 2014 and D was final 2018.
Originally Posted by Doug54
When things first began unfolding (more like unraveling) for me, before I had read DR or came to this board, I would use daily interactions with the W and things like frequency of sex to say to myself, “Hey- we’re knocking boots with gusto! How bad can things be?”
Yep for sure. I did for awhile and would touch the hot stove and realized nothing changed.
Originally Posted by Doug54
Did you & your ex-wife realize things were going to drag for as long as they did, or is that just how it wound up happening?
Well I busted up her first EA and than she coasted for another year and a half until what I now believe she found her second EA probably PA. Then we lived together for over a year after she filed.
Originally Posted by Doug54
Were there kids in the household?
Yeah the kids didn't know right up to when she was ready to move out. We still ate dinner together and held a decent front though I am sure they knew something was up.
Originally Posted by Doug54
Did she pressure you to be the one to move out?
She wanted to legally separate and nest. I opted to D and don't regret it for a second. Life with someone who wants out is the most horrible situation I have ever been in to date.
I don't regret fighting for my family but I do regret trying to convince her to stay in my life if that makes sense?
