I followed all the rules with my first husband and was miserable and he left me and financially screwed me over.
I took pretty big risks and made moves that would never have been advised and I’m currently married to someone I’m very happy and stilll excited to be with.
I think there’s the risk of hurt with anyone and in any situation. Base it on how you are Being treated and how he makes you feel and don’t worry about rules and time lines.
