Look what the Cat dragged in.....Literally

[bttrfly]

Of course if I met someone compelling, that could change pretty quickly, but I'm not looking.

What does someone compelling look like to you?

I don't think it's going to be like it was with my exh, when I looked up and saw him standing there looking like Prince Valiant, and I felt like I'd been run over by a truck, but hey, I could be wrong. I don't know what God and the Universe have in store for me.

I know your statistical mind wants something concrete. That's not the way this works for me. I know that compelling doesn't fit in a box: it's not something specific or quantifiable like makes $$XX, is YY tall, is ZZage, has a specific eye color.

Rather it is being drawn to that person, and wanting to spend more and more time with him, finding that he comes into my thoughts more often during the time apart, or finding myself wondering what he thinks about this, that or the other.

It takes someone extraordinary for me to fall in love. It's only happened twice. Were there similarities between them? Yes, although not physically. And then there's pheromones - they both smelled intoxicating to me.

I've since met someone who has a lot of those same characteristics and he is a dear friend, but will not ever be more than that to me. Among other things, he doesn't have the smell, lol. And even if he did, being a people pleaser of the hopeless variety is a deal breaker for me. Why? Because those people are rarely honest with themselves or others.