To add, he has left all his stuff here since he walked out in April. All he has with him are some clothes and his toothbrush and shaver. He even left all his aftershave here and when I do see him, he usually looks unshaven, tired, stressed. I mean, really, I do not think there is someone else... He is staying in a tiny condo he has described as a "sh*thole" (sorry, I hope that's allowed!).
He has continued to wear his wedding ring through all of this. I don't know if I should read anything in to that.
Anyway, I have had a few calls with coach Joann but the last one was in June, so I have booked another for a few days' time.
Another thing: my husband was diagnosed with ADHD shortly after BD. I have since read so much online about how undiagnosed ADHD can destroy a marriage. I feel so sad that we now have a diagnosis that explains what was causing (most of) our problems and that he doesn't appear to want to use that to fix how we interact and save our marriage.
So sorry to hear you're in this situation. Seems like you're handling this really well. It's awful feeling this way - especially seeing glimmers of hope (eg, wedding ring). I also recommend not talking to friends/family. Echoing what they said, it doesn't really help much. It's the WAH/MLC problem and nobody else's words will help.
I wanted to ask - who is Joann? I thought DB didn't have coaches anymore.
