Thanks drew. Am I doing everything right ? Probably not . I have had to make some hard decisions as a parent and right now I feel they are the right ones.
I wanted to carry over from E’s thread. I didn’t want to hijack at all.
I’m my many many many years here and going through what I have. Believe it or not, this board has messed with my dating life. Good intentions by most people . I’ll never regret that. But I sometimes I feel like I have to be the most perfect, healed, and studied human being to be successful or worthy of dating . Doing all the research, reading the books, listening to the podcasts, doing the IC…….
I’ve done a lot. I don’t have it all figured out . But honestly, it doesn’t make me any less worthy of dating or a relationship. I always come from a good place in my heart. Even if I don’t do it right all the time . I’ll never be perfect or have it all figured out. But what I need is to have trust in myself .
Am I still seeing this not quite divorced guy? Yes. We have a date on Thursday. He’s been away in FL and has been in touch quite regularly. Has he thrown up any red flags aside from not being legally divorced ? Nope. He’s sweet. He’s thoughtful. Communicative. He has a great strong relationship with his family. We enjoy a lot of the same . Is the timing bad? Maybe. If we met at the ideal time, both divorced for a while, etc. would this be the ideal situation ? Absolutely.
I don’t know what’s going to happen. Certain moments I say it ties because there is not possible way it could work out because he hasn’t been alone long enough. Other times, I say we are just totally on the same page about everything and he is not the kind of guy who is all about being alone and playing the field and appreciates something great when he finds it.
Rules, rule, rules. Some days I don’t know which way to go. For now, I enjoy his company. I laugh and smile when we talk. We have depth to our connection and conversation and it feels good. And I might lose it in a heart beat.
Oh, I have been divorced for 13 year as of the 23rd. As of tomorrow my mom will have been dead for 21 years. And I handle it all well .we are at my dads with my D’s friend. Having a great time . She’s being a kid her age not worrying about her dad and what he is doing . And that is fine for now . I’m simply not at work until Wednesday and enjoying that.
