Like, a 180 for me would be acting more emotionally present...but then, I don't want to overdo that and be readily available.
You can be emotionally present without rescuing her. This comes through listening and validating her feelings.
Originally Posted by Doug54
So, W is (for whatever reason) amped up right now after I said I wasn't going to the next MC session. I said I had "talked about it in IC" and didn't feel it was productive for me at this point in time.
This would have been a good time to show that 180. I am not saying to stick to your decision but you can do that with empathy. "For whatever reason" implies a certain tone and judgment... even if you didn't express it directly... I'm sure you w would have felt it... and to her... that's probably just same ole Doug.
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
