^^^ definitely a fair assessment of what works for you or doesn’t for that matter
I agree, trying to fill one void with something unrelated never works.
That is not something healthy to throw back there in a dating market .
The void of emotional romantic intimacy should only be filled by the same. I’m pretty whole in most areas of my life. Do I feel a void in my romantic life? Absolutely! Is it because I need external validation from others or to make me feel whole overall I’m other areas I don’t ? Absolutely not.
For me, and others I know, emotional and romantic intimacy and partnership is a void that can’t be filled by a new hobby. For me, this is my healthy stage to get out there. Am I perfect? No. Do I have it all figured out in the dating world? No way. But am I filling the dating pool with someone who hasn’t “healed enough “? I don’t think so.
And I I agree, it’s totally different for everyone.
And E is a very intelligent woman who knows where she falls on that spectrum. Because it definitely isn’t the same for everyone
