Well, inlaws are coming into town. I guess soon to be ex-inlaws. My ex MIL is a major reason for ex's behavior - she was abusive growing up to the ex, and an alcoholic. She was also not very kind when ex and I had started dating: never invited me on any of their 3 family vacations per year, even when engaged, and I was invited on only one a few years after we were married; made ex come back from my place at 530 AM during college when we were dating so his sister wouldn't find out he was gone; she would tell me to stop talking about my schooling since she was sick of hearing about it, blah blah.
Now it's been out into the open she's an alcoholic and has been in treatment but relapses frequently. Several family members do not talk to her at all to the point where she's not invited to the wedding of their cousins.
She sent me a text saying "Give your nanny a break the week that [FIL] and I are here so we can spend as much time with the baby as possible." I told her no, I would dismiss the nanny early, but would not be breaking his routine. She can't boss me around anymore.
I took the baby to my best friend's daughter's birthday party this weekend, everyone offered to hold him and wouldn't stop saying how sweet and cute he is. I was telling her husband how I don't miss the ex anymore and voila - like clockwork, he called. I texted him 10 mins later telling him i'm at a bday party and he texted saying he was just calling to check in. I've been pretty busy so will get back to him now like 6 hours later. Pretty good I think!
I'm going to a medical conference with some friends in Dec and my parents are watching the baby and I am STOKED. Reminds me I can happily travel without the ex. To be fair, I was the one who travelled alone (he never had!) and would plan clutch vacations for him and I. He wouldn't really put in any effort but talk about how great they were to all his friends later. His words about not caring about travelling me are still haunting me but hopefully those keep fading away.
