My IC feels that dating again will help to deal with these issues. So I'm considering looking at that in the coming months.
Hey E....
I'm not sure that I agree with this just yet...
You admittedly are having some troubles with coming through this,. Feelings of being Jaded and still seems to be a lot of anger built up inside.
And maybe going on a few dates would be good, yet somehow I don't feel as if that is the person that you want to put out there.
???
To me, I think you are heading in the right direction. Just finding out who YOU are through all of this....
Yes, you could possibly have some validating interactions, albeit external validation, and that only lasts for so long. It comes down to how you validate yourself that really matters...
Imagine that you are once again that 6 year old girl, imagining her prince rescuing her from the tower..
Except when he finds you, you aren't whole and ready for that ???
Who is the person that you want to show the world everyday ??
THAT is the person that you should be searching for IMHO....
Find her.....
Originally Posted by Elbereth
Now that my D is finalized, there is a part of me that wants to reach out to my XH's OW's husband. I am curious about what he went through. They were M a very long time. And I am sure he knew about my XH as OW had a relationship with him before she met her H. Is this a terrible idea?
I wonder what YOU would like to see if that happens ?
What answers would help you ?
Would it be a 'closure' thing ???
Cause it could also be a couple people that get stuck commiserating, and really never move forward, which isn't a healthy place to live in....
