I do hope you are right and I do so hope I am wrong. But at least two of Sandy's rules say to watch the actions, not words. Trust nothing what the MLC'er says and only half of what he/she does.
It has been a while since I last glanced over them (immensly valuable though) but I also seem to remember that one states if the MLCer is sincere then he/she must commit fully and there has to be total disclosure and no secrets kept from the LBS. That means all passwords, mail accounts, phones, computers, tablets must be unlocked at all times. But as we all know, MLC'er will find a way to continue the ilicit affair.
Also I think it is important for the LBS to be aware of the monster task ahead. This situation is not something that some silly putty will fix. This is a life changing event. Nothing will be as it once was.
Thing is....I agree with you about all of that....
Just that now may not be the time. Her actions, by going on this trip, kinda matched her words in MC....
And exactly how many MLCers have agreed to ...
A- go to marriage counseling
B-participate in marriage counseling once they went
C-verbalize their desire to work on the marriage in marriage counseling
