The "friend" she was referring to was obviously the EA guy; my buddy isn't trying to control her from talking to her girlfriends. My hope is she's being sincere about MC and cutting off contact, but my gut says LH and Vapo are right. My spidey sense is tingling, saying he's naïvely projecting his desire for things to be better onto his sitch, but hopefully I'm just biased and jaded from my own sitch and he's right. Time will tell. In the meantime I'm trying to coach him a bit on listening/empathizing instead of debating logically / fixing, as well as working on himself. According to him her parents background wasn't necessarily happy but they stayed together, so maybe that's a better model than if he parents had multiaaple affairs/Ds and will give her a bit more pause on pulling any triggers.
Mine does too....
It tells me that everything isn't on the table, and it wants to tell him to bail...
Thing is...
Blowing it all to He!! has ONE outcome....
The other stuff will give him more available options...
