Ginger, did you not read that the wife was upset, because she was not "allowed" to talk to her "friend"? If this is not a clear indicator what's going on, then I do not know what is.
If they are serious about MC, then there can be NO CONTACT with the EA, or that just resets the clock. 95% of time the temptation will be too great to avoid the lure of the contact and the circle revolves once again.
My Ex said that se tried to break it off with the OM more than 40 times, but the "butterflies" were just too strong. Our kids were 4 and 2 at the time. Needles to say I was in a special kind of hell back then.
Am I biased from my own situation? Sure. Is there a chance I am wrong about BL friend's situation? Sure. But this experience of mine gave me a couple of super powers (I am practically an Avenger), and two of them are 1, a gift to smell buII$hit from 30 miles and second is a MLC detector, I can spot people in MLC faster than a labrador devouring a hot dog.
And Mach, I could not disagree with him more. He want's to give the wife the benefit of the doubt. Fine, but too little, too late. The wife has checked out.
Men are fixers. BL's friend will try to "fix" things, shower the wife with attention, flowers, romance, but that will just piss her off further. While it is true that the bears some responibility for the situation, and he should own his part in the troubles, he should focus on his children, his sanity and his work.
